The most difficult lesson I've learned about black people is that we've grown accustomed to fighting for everything. So much, that we actually prefer it. No one likes things that are given freely anymore. Especially love. We want to clamor, scratch and claw for it. We want it to hurt and we want it to cost. We want to feel worthy of it and we want to earn it. We're too ignorant to realize that it should be given freely. We like you when you don't like us and lose interest when you do. We'd much rather make someone love us than let someone love us. We want it drama-filled and long-suffering.
We're so damaged that when someone points out our rips, we blame them; as if they ripped us. We're breaking rapidly and they're not making glue fast enough to repair all of the cracks.
Come on Home Depot...I know you can do something about this.
Boy tells girl he's not looking for a relationship.
Girl says "me neither" knowing that she is, but hoping she can stick it out until he's ready.
A year passes and boy and girl are still not an item.
After constant pressuring from girl, boy "leaves."
Girl blames boy...says he wasted her time.
Truth is...girl wasted her own time. Boy told you he didn't want anything from you in the beginning but you thought you could wait him out.
Boy didn't hurt you. You hurt you.
...when people tell you what they want you should believe them. Way too often we pretend to be on the same page with lovers because we're afraid they might leave if we're not. The truth of the matter is, they're probably going to leave anyway. If you know what you want, try finding it in people who want the same thing as you. Don't try to sit in the background and wait it out, because you're likely to end up hurt. There are billions of people on planet earth. I'm sure a few of them are looking for the same thing as you. Stop settling for bullshit then blaming the people who are giving you exactly what they promised you...nothing.